و صلى الله على سيدنا محمد و على آله حق قدره و مقداره العظيم
You can always tell the would-be Sufi novice by their egotistical attachment to feeling good. They seem bi-polar, thrown from one extreme to another; paradisiacal one moment and hellacious the next. One moment, they seem to be…
Why does chauvinistic rhetoric exist in Muslim events?! Why is anyone making snark sexist jokes on stage and why do many in our communities continue to make it okay by laughing and thus encouraging it?!??
Some Muslim men fail to acknowledge (or even understand) the concept of Muslim male privilege and thus use those privileges to help support their counterparts in faith.
Men, you have a serious responsibility to understand our struggles with being women ESPECIALLY in the Muslim community. If you’re serious about helping the dawah, recognize you hurt it when you minimize, undermine, don’t acknowledge and simply don’t attempt to understand sisters’ struggles within the very communities you serve.
We, women, have a serious responsibility to take it upon ourselves to proactively AND productively voice our concerns, become learned, take active community roles and help change some of the underlying (although yes, often unintentional, completely uneducated) sexism in some community rhetoric. We also need to understand the difficult struggles brothers experience and through our support of their struggles, help them understand how they can also support us.
It will take work from the entire community to fulfill the concept in this blessed verse:
"The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and establish prayer and give zakah and obey God and His Messenger. Those - God will have mercy upon them. Indeed, God is Exalted in Might and Wise." (Quran: 9:71)
There’s a reason God mentioned both men and women and called us allies of one another. Do allies hurt one another? No. Do they mock one another? No. Do they minimize and diminish one another? No. Because when one is hurt, so is the other. When one is strong, so is the other. We want to experience strength as a community? Brothers and sisters, we need to work together in the right ways and empower each other."